As mentioned, I got married and pregnant instantly. I mean I think it happened on our first night as a married couple, so we’ve been pregnant as long as we’ve married. Well, I’ll let you into a little secret: nothing kills your sex drive like pregnancy! Unless you really really want to not enjoy having sex with your new husband, don’t get pregnant. Use condoms, the pill, track your fertility, get an injection, whatever it takes do it to avoid getting pregnant straight away (unless of course that’s what you want). Getting married and living with another person and learning to share your space is really hard work and it takes a lot of compromise and reasoning – these are traits that are in low supply during early pregnancy I’m finding! So just give yourself some time.
I’ve spent most of the last 5 weeks looking for ways to avoid any intimacy – I literally just don’t feel like it. I think in normal circumstances I have a healthy sex drive, I’m certainly good to go any time of the day or night and in the first couple of weeks it was hard to do anything else when we were alone. More recently I’m just not in the mood, and nothing he does convinces me otherwise. I’ve read that this is quite normal in pregnancy and maybe if we’d been married for longer than 10 weeks it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but at this early stage of our new life together I feel a tiny bit guilty that the thought of having sex makes me want to be sick!
I don’t think that sex is at all harmful for the child, or in any way uncomfortable at this stage, its just not something I’m in the mood for. I’m sure for some women they turn in to nymphomaniacs, and god on them, but my body has decided to shut down in that department. And I cant believe I’m going to say this – I really don’t care, I’m just happy to get a good nights sleep!!!